Sunday, September 2, 2012

Keeping your Husband Attracted to you - Tips and Advice

Women once married often end up neglecting themselves as lovers. Caught up in the whirlpool of a demanding job, raising kids and looking after the home, one day they are rudely confronted by the sight of their husbands looking at another woman with something similar to desire. If you find yourself veering dangerously close to such a situation, take heed of the following tips and keep your husband attracted to you.

Take care of your appearance
Granted there is more to you than your appearance but that is still not an excuse to let yourself go after some time into a marriage. Remember when you were dating, how much time and effort you put into turning out in your best. While both may be precious commodities now what with juggling a career and family, still try to set aside at least half an hour each day for yourself. Use the time to go for a jog or burn off some calories on the treadmill. You need not strive for a reed thin figure but regular exercise will not only give you a well toned and hence attractive body but more importantly keep your heart healthy. Also go for beauty routines like a pedicure or a facial from time to time so that your skin retains its glow. Take care of your hair too with a nourishing diet and regular trimming. All this might seem too much work initially but you need not fit all of them in a single day. Space out your skincare routine say over several weekends or twice a week but make sure that you make time for something you need to do everyday like a workout. This way it will be easier to take care of your appearance without getting overwhelmed by all the scheduling. Your husband will be sure to notice the change in you besides loving the fact that you took some effort in looking good for him. This will go a long way in keeping your husband attracted to you.

Make suitable changes in your personal style
If your wardrobe has not seen any changes since the last three years, perhaps it is time for some spring cleaning. A good thumb rule is to discard anything that you have not worn in the past year. But if you don’t want to be drastic, at least make a realistic assessment of each time in your closet. If it is way out of fashion or more a couple of sizes different from what you are wearing now, think about whether you should keep them. At the same time, honestly assess your present figure and buy clothes which will flatter your best features while minimizing those that are less than perfect. It is not necessary to go for a complete overhaul of your wardrobe especially when you cannot afford it. Just pick up a couple of things from each group like daytime wear, evening wear, casual wear and so on. If you don’t feel confident or aware enough to decide on your choices, by all means take help from a trusted friend who is an expert but remember that finally it is about you and your personal style should complement your personality. When you look good, you feel good within which in turn makes others including your husband feel good being around you and finding himself attracted to you.

Explore mutual interests
Go back to the time when you were dating and try to think of all that drew you to each other. These could have been common interests and hobbies like music, sports or cooking. Even if you are now swamped with work, try to make time for at least one hobby over the weekend which you can pursue in each other’s company. Doing things together will go a long way in rekindling that earlier spark of attraction between you and your husband. Also it will provide a topic of conversation other than kids and chores and help you to bond as a man and woman and not necessarily as domestic partners.

Broaden your own horizons
Refreshing your appearance is not enough if you want to keep your husband attracted to you. You must also come off as a smart woman who is not content to sit at home or rest on what she has already achieved. If you have concentrated on your career all this while, take up a new interest like dancing or gardening. Or after all this time of being a stay-at-home mom, join a short course at a nearby college or simply learn a new language. Doing something new and worthwhile will not only make you a happier more fulfilled person, it will also encourage your husband to look at you afresh and even appreciate your initiative.

Get a life
One of the most effective ways to keep a man attracted to you is to give him a sense that his presence is not always required. Appearing needy and unable to take a decision or go anywhere without him are all sure-fire ways to turn a guy off. Let him see you having fun with your own friends and going out every now and them to enjoy a movie or a shopping expedition without him. Once he sees you as an independent person taking responsibility for her own happiness and even with an air of mystery about her, your husband will be all the more attracted to you.

Take an interest in him
Easier said than done especially when you feel that after all these years in a marriage you know all there is to know about your husband. However it will never hurt to show a little more interest in what he likes, is fond of or aspires to in life. Bake him his favorite cookies once in a while or take the lead in making love. Sit by him while he watches football and show interest in his favorite team. At the same time be a little unpredictable in ways of showing your love so that your husband is kept guessing on what you will do for him next. This is not to say that you do all the giving in your relationship but that by being spontaneous and fun, you’ll be sure to keep him attracted to you.



 

Wednesday, August 15, 2012

How to Tell If a Girl Is Attracted
to You

Many guys wonder whether women are attracted to them, mainly because women are much more subtle than guys when it comes to showing their attraction towards someone. However, once you know the secrets, spotting the signs is easy. Just one of these actions is enough to act on, more than one then go for it! Here are the ways women may show that they like you:

1. When She Wants to Speak to You:

  • She will point her feet in your direction when standing up.
  • She may smile, or look away embarrassed when holding eye contact.
  • She jerks her leg in your direction if sitting down with legs crossed.
  • She adjusts her posture – sitting up straighter and holding in her belly.
  • She faces you with her hips/legs towards you while sitting.
  • She opens up her body language to you while standing.
  • She brushes up against you unnecessarily when she passes.
  • She looks at you twice before approach.
  • She touches her hair when she notices you.

If you receive any of these gestures, definitely move in and begin conversation with her. The next aim is to move the interaction along to a point where the girl actually wants to continue pursuing a conversation with you. This may happen instantly, or it could take a while. If you have jumped straight in without any of the above signals, look for some of the below to know if she is interested.

2. If She is Interested in Extending the Interaction:

  • She asks your name.
  • She asks you questions
  • She responds with extended answers to your questions.

So those are the signs that she likes you enough to want to talk to you, but how can you tell if she actually wants to get physical with you?

3. If She is Sexually Attracted to You:

  • She strokes her neck when talking to you.
  • She gazes at your mouth.
  • She tilts head to the side when speaking to you.
  • Her pupils dilate.
  • She laughs at your jokes, even when they aren’t funny.
  • She is happy listening to you even when you are talking rubbish.
  • She holds eye contact with you and doesn’t look around the room or at her friends. (Note – if she is nervous and it is just not her character to hold strong eye contact, she could still be interested.)
  • She is doesn’t mind you touching her and entering her space.
  • She is willing to leave her friends and stay with you.
  • She laughs and hits you on the shoulder when you tease her.
  • She looks at you in a dreamy way.
  • She asks if you’re single.
  • She uses your name in conversation.
  • She leans in towards you.

Knowing the signs that a girl is attracted to use is very useful, as it not only tells you whether or not to make the move but also helps to avoid crucial opportunities. Your success rate with women will increase significantly, just by knowing how to read women.

Monday, July 30, 2012

How to Make a Man Attracted to You - If Love is What You Want, Love is What You'll Get

Today, right now, you're going to learn how to make a man attracted to you. If you've got your eyes set on one special guy and are looking for a way to make him fall in love with you, then this article can help you do just that. The key is understanding what makes guys go bonkers for women.

How To Make A Man Attracted To You - 5 Simple Steps You Can Take Today To Become The Focus Of His Affection

Be Beautiful
Being beautiful refers to both your physical appearance as well as the expression of your femininity through your actions and emotions. When it comes to looks, you have two choices. You can choose to be a man hater who sees men as uncaring, shallow jerks or you can realize being visually stimulated and attracted to a woman's physical appearance is simply hard wired into every man's biology. It's not his fault.
Remember, your looks are your first chance to make a good impression.

If you want to make a man attracted to you, then you should always be as beautiful as you can be. Remember, it's about being beautiful, not about dressing like a prostitute or making men feel like you're giving them an open invitation for sex.

Don't equate being beautiful with being a super model. A big part of being beautiful is being comfortable with yourself and your own appearance. Men love confident, secure women.

Compliment Him
Men are always told to compliment women, but men love to receive compliments too. Remember that men are judged by their success and have a strong desire to succeed at everything they do. Compliment him at how good he is at something. If he fixes your car for you, tell him how much you admire having a man around who knows how to fix things.

Don't Be Afraid To Make The First Move
Most men will tell you they like an aggressive woman who isn't afraid to go after what she wants. When you make the first move and let a man know you like him, it exudes confidence. Men love when women come on to them. They get tired of being responsible for initiating everything all the time even though they are expected to do so.

Never Try To Change Him
If you want a man to be attracted to you and to fall in love with you, then love and appreciate him for who he is. Never try to change him. Don't make the mistake of falling in love with his potential and not who he really is.

Use Your Smile
Use your smile on him every chance you get. Nothing melts a man faster then a beautiful smile from an attractive woman. You'll constantly be on his mind if you give him the biggest smile every time he looks at you. It will make him feel comfortable and accepted.

Next, now is the time to make men crave you: Make Him Crave You

If you really want to create an intense desire in your man that will make you utterly irresistible to him, then understand men in a way few women will ever know that will help you fulfill his every desire, become the sole focus of his affection, and make him fall head over heels in love with you


 

Wednesday, July 4, 2012

How to Be More Physically Attractive (Men)

Be More Physically Attractive (Men)Being physically attractive is a vague goal, and probably unattainable; moreover, attractiveness is defined differently by different people. "Be healthy" may be a more concrete goal, if you equate attractiveness with physical fitness. Different cultures define attractiveness in different ways, and often there are groups of people within those cultures who define attractiveness entirely differently. Thus it's impossible to give tips that apply to all or even most individuals. 

Steps:

  1. Believe in yourself. Otherwise you're never going to think you've reached a stage of "attractiveness," even if everyone else does.
  2. Relax. Many people, if not all people, are somewhat insecure about their physical attractiveness. Realizing that others are just as nervous around the issue will help you stay in perspective.
  3. Determine the type or types of people you want to attract. For instance, straight athletic women with corporate jobs or punk guys - obviously different crowds and therefore different attractions.
  4. Be comfortable in your sexuality and your gender role. Not all men have to be masculine! If masculinity is something that you value and those whom you want to attract also value it, you may want to accentuate your masculine qualities. On the other hand, some people are attracted to androgynous or feminine men, or simply men who have a balance of masculinity and femininity, and won't freak out over wearing a pink shirt. Only you will know what fits you best, and what those whom you want to attract are interested in. The key is to identify your sexuality and gender role and become comfortable with it.
  5. Find clothes that fit your image. If you don't feel like you're as attractive as you would like to be, clothes and other accessories can help you feel more confident. Whether your look is professional, casual, preppy, punk, emo, country-western, urban or some combination of these, your clothes will help communicate who you are, and who you want to be. Choose clothes that accentuate your best features. If you have a muscular torso, go ahead and wear smaller shirts that will show it off. If you have nice eyes, accentuate their colour by wearing the opposite colour on the colour wheel - if you have blue eyes, wear orange; this will make your eyes stand out.

Tips:

  • Ask for honest advice of those you trust about your physical appearance. But remember that their ideas about what is attractive may NOT be the same as your own. It may be more useful to identify to yourself what you want to change, and then ask for advice on how to do it. For instance, if you want to be more athletic, ask advice of a particularly athletic friend for becoming more physically active. If you want to pull off the hipster look, ask a friend who's already rocking it out -- they'll probably love to help you!
  • Keep a positive attitude. Many people worry about their physical appearance -- you're not the only one!
  • Decide if physical appearance is what you want to focus the most on. If you are looking to attract people who put a lot of emphasis on appearance, they will make a lot of demands for you to keep up your own appearance. For some, it's more satisfying to find people who are but don't think of it as their only mission in life.
  • Spend time in social situations. Even if you are hitting bars alone, go just to check out the scene but don't put pressure on yourself to meet someone or even talk to someone.
  • Do some homework and get familiar with the hot hangouts or good places to meet people. Once you have yourself packaged you can go back with knowledge of the landscape.
  • Smiling easily and often will help people to be more attracted towards you. It's an important facet of your personality (It's just showing your "better" side!).

Warnings:

  • Anorexia and bulimia are serious medical conditions that affect both sexes. In most social circles, they are unattractive qualities. If you have an eating disorder, seek professional medical attention.
  • Set realistic body-building or toning goals, then push to exceed them. There is a risk of injury if you improperly use exercise equipment. Read the instructions or ask a friend or trainer.

Things You'll Need:

  • A Place to Meet People (to give you motivation)
  • Stylish Clothes (your style for confidence)
  • A suitable haircut for you that matches the image you are going for
  • A perfume

Wednesday, June 20, 2012

Most men, and I'm talking about 95% of them, have no idea how or why women feel that amazing emotion called attraction for some men. And if they do have an idea, it's usually dead wrong.

Man and woman are different when it comes to attraction. Man usually attracted by the physical appearance first but woman is more attracted to the personality. That's the basic principle of attraction between man and woman. Now, let's talk about the underlying process that creates attraction for woman.

Attraction isn't a choice. It's an emotional reaction. Women don't "choose" to feel attraction for a man. You maybe know that woman would choose a man who is taller than her, but if you see the reality, you can see that many women is go out and date with a man who is shorter than her. What happen here?? Attraction is not a choice.

Attraction isn't logical, in the sense that it isn't created by things that "should" create it. Buying women dinner and gifts, giving lots of compliments when you first meet a woman, and kissing up to women to get their approval are examples of "logical" things that should create attraction, but don't. When you understand how attraction works, you begin to see that it has a "logic" all its own. If you really understand how attraction works then almost anything will work. If you will take the time to learn how and why women feel that interesting and magical emotional response called attraction for some rare men, and not for all the other men running around, then everything changes.

Here are a few interesting points. There are a few physical cues, or specific types of "body language" that instantly tell a woman whether or not you're a guy that is even worth a second glance.

If you don't know what these things are, and how to use them, then the game will be over before it has even started. Scary. Women test men constantly. And attractive women test men much more intensely than "regular" women. If you don't know how to spot these tests (and most of them are very subtle), and then deal with them, you're going to lose your chance to create attraction before you even get it.

Ok, so what should we guys do to? Take time and learn how attraction works for women...